Our SE sessions are made up of dozens, if not hundreds, of elements of experience encountered in the moment. Part of our task as SE Practitioners is to help clients thread their attention through these elements in a way that maximizes the sense of success while minimizing the sense of failure – ala the “I
As SE practitioner we often either accompany or prepare our clients for stressful events. Things like surgeries, court battles, conflicted meetings with family or employers and so on. These inherently stressful events can be hard on anyone and are especially challenged for people who already experience themselves in regular distress. They’re also the kind of
Along the path of learning something as dynamic as Somatic Experiencing is extended time repeating and mimicking other peoples words, voice, rhythm and presentation. This “copy cat time” is probably necessary. There are so many patterns in our work that require our extensive practice before they become our own. Once they do become our own, once we
The consistency of our signal and feedback to our clients is key to helping them get to know us and our work quickly. The more random, confused or inconsistent our requests the harder it is for our clients to find security and success in our offices. This reflection doesn’t go into all the nuances behind
From the first contact we’re learning things that will matter later in the session. The more we acknowledge that we’re actually trying to get to know our client’s quickly, the better we’ll get at it. This episode includes some storytelling from the field in DR Congo where my ability to get to know my client quickly made